I’m blogging every single day in November, and I’m totally happy to share my list of amateur daily themes if you’re interested in joining me. In yesterday’s inaugural NaBloPoMo post, I dished about how much I lurv my Hubby. Out of the fire and back into the frying pan: today’s theme is Ex-Boyfriends.
Do you remember all of your break ups? I cannot for the life of me remember how or why I broke up with my first boyfriend. At least I think I’m the one who did the breaking up …
Now, I’m calling him my first boyfriend, but technically, he was my second. I guess I just don’t really count the guy who asked me to be his girlfriend in 9th Grade, since I had my friend break up with him for me the very next day. (If you talk during the movie we’re watching, you’re gonna get the axe. Sorry.)
And maybe you’re thinking, if I don’t remember my first breakup, it must be because I’ve had so many I can’t keep them straight. Hah, fooled you! I am the proud owner of two whole ex-boyfriends (three if you count Mr. Movie Talker).
I do, however, remember the How and Why of my break up with my second boyfriend. Let’s call him Preston. As for the How, well, technically, Preston broke up with me. But I like to think that I expertly drove him crazy on purpose, in the hopes that he would end things so I wouldn’t have to. Because conflict is gross, and I consider myself a nice person. (Nice enough to drive someone crazy for sixth months in order to avoid an hour of discomfort).
I remember we were on the phone — we were long distance at the time — and somehow we had finally mustered the courage to discuss whether we should call it quits. I told him I would let him decide, and as he sat there ruminating for a few minutes, I remember praying to myself: “Please, pleaaase, please just break up with me already.” And he did. Thank gawd.
As for the Why, well, the main thing was that Preston was a major douche. (I mean, we did meet at a prep school in New England, so the douchery odds were never in his favor.) He was super privileged and oblivious to hardship, and he said something once that offended me to my core. During one of our many phone chats, he told me that he didn’t think he could ever be friends with someone who didn’t go to college. Ew. Ew! My skin still crawls when I think about it — so stuck up, so uninformed. Honestly, when Preston said that, I knew we were done. It sounds so trivial, but it just perfectly punctuated our entirely distinct world views.
Other than the fact that we were fundamentally completely different people, it was a young relationship and success just wasn’t in the cards. We started dating when I was a senior in high school, and he was a year behind me. We decided to stay together long-distance when I headed off to college, because we were stupid and that’s what stupid people do. But Preston was really judgmental and mean every time I wanted to go out and have fun with my college friends. And after a while, it got so bad that I just decided to stay home by myself in my dorm. Major womp womp. And then when Preston graduated and went off to a different college, he was completely respectful and never went out with friends or got blackout drunk or fell off the map for days. Haha just kidding, he totally did all those things! Hypocrite.
So yeah, things went sour and we broke up during his first year of college. We stayed friends for a while, and chatted on the phone from time to time. Then one day he changed his Facebook profile to a picture of him nuzzling the navel of a large-chested, bikini-clad co-ed, and we never spoke again. Oh well.
Until next time,