‘Tis the season of sugar highs, long lines, and–miraculously–somehow also the kindness of strangers.
Allow me to set the scene. It was Christmas Eve Eve Eve (yes, that’s a thing). The second of four days in a row that Hubby would be working leading up to Christmas Day. And I had dragged the kids out in a nasty wintry mix so we could do some last minute shopping for Hubby at Barnes and Noble.
If you don’t know, Barnes and Noble is a fairly kid-friendly bookstore, with lots of toys for sale, and usually some kind of train table in the kid section for open play. So I let the munchkins play with the train table for a while before picking up my gift for Hubby.
At one point, K-Man started to do the potty dance, and said he needed to pee. So I picked up Ell-Bell, the diaper bag, all of our jackets, and marched him over to the bathroom on the other side of the store. And when we got there, that little stinker refused to pee, said he didn’t need to go. Ugh! So, we walked over to the toy section — again, with me juggling all the things — and played around for a bit. K-Man could not move two feet without knocking a cascade of things off of the shelves.
I was starting to get kind of flustered, so I picked up Hubby’s present and started to wrangle the kids and our things so we could go check out. Before we got very far, though, K-Man again announced that he had to pee. Well duh! Back to the bathroom we went. After much coaxing, little man did his business and we went up front to pay for our things.
As it was Christmas Eve Eve Eve, there was a long-assed line. And the line was littered with towers of things for sale, teetering precariously at every turn. So stressful. K-Man insisted on playing with a pile of Beanie Babies, dragging them all over the dirty floor despite my tired pleas. Ell-Bell started losing her mind and didn’t want to be held anymore. As I was trying to adjust her and the diaper bag and the jackets and the things I was buying, I managed to knock a few items off a display table. Ugh. “Gee, thanks for all your help,” I thought grumpily to myself, feeling the stares from other people in line as I picked up my mess.
Finally, finally, it was my turn to check out, so I dragged my brood of people and things up to the counter and started to exchange pleasantries with the clerk. The lady behind me in line huffily rushed up next to me and waved one of the Beanie Babies in the air. “Seriously?” I mumbled, thinking she was going to complain about how K-Man was playing with it.
And then the lady said, “Excuse me, I would like to buy this toy for her.” And she gestured towards me.
Oops. I’m a terrible person. I profusely thanked her, and she commented that she had five kids (wow), that she knows that some days are better than others, that it is the season of giving, etc. And then she explained to the clerk that she was covering my whole purchase. I tried to protest, because you guys, it was a $50 bill! A complete and total stranger wanted to buy me $50 worth of things because it’s Christmas and I was having a hard day!
I eventually let her go through with it, but I felt a little awkward and couldn’t thank her enough. I was even moved to a few tears, which was super embarrassing. (To be fair, I was pretty close to tears before the nice gesture…)
I was so overwhelmed with emotion, in fact, that I failed to realize that the clerk had rung up one of my items twice, thereby charging this kind lady an extra $15. Oof, I really wish I had noticed that at the time!
As I drove home, I reflected on the kindness of a stranger, and how it had turned around my day. This season is so beautiful to me. I know I talk a lot about shopping and presents, but I really do love the less tangible facets of Christmas. Kindness. Giving. Love. Cheer. I love how Christmas brings these emotions forward.
Christmas is picking up someone’s bill to brighten their day.
Christmas is humming carols out loud at the grocery store, smiling as you pass someone doing the same.
Christmas is my heart exploding as I watch my kids bathe together before bedtime, both silently sucking on their toothbrushes in unison. Dorks.
Christmas is Hubby’s attending sending him home 4 hours early today so he could spend Christmas Eve with his children.
I know this time of year isn’t easy for everyone. For some, Christmas is about longing for what they don’t yet have, or missing what they don’t have anymore. For me, sometimes the holiday just highlights the loss I still feel so keenly for my own nuclear family, the one that crumbled when my parents divorced 7 years ago.
So if you’re not feeling all warm and cuddly and spirity this Christmas Eve, please accept my virtual hug. And know that if I was behind you in line at Barnes and Noble, I would totally pick up your bill.
Merry Christmas to all. Until next time,